How to Find Happiness in a Relationship with a Partner?
Happiness with a loved one is a ghostly ideal, which, nevertheless, we all strive for. What should we do in a relationship if we don’t seem to like it all that much?
You can act radically, embarking on a search for a new partner. After all, dating girls on Facebook and dating sites is quite common, finding romantic partners online is all the rage right now. But sometimes, in order to make relationships brighter and play with new colors, it’s just enough to “dig into” yourself, make a little effort and slightly change your own behavior.
As scientists have found out, most people feel happier surrounded by bright and beautiful things. Projecting this knowledge into the sphere of interpersonal relations, the psychologist Emma Kenny on the pages of the British portal shares her practical tips on how to find happiness in a relationship with a partner.
Spend time with the people you love
Communication with those who are dear to you strengthens our self-esteem and reminds us of what connects us with other people. A lot of research on the psychology of relationships confirms that the happiest people are those who find time to communicate with loved ones. And while there are introverts that may feel quite happy alone from time to time, they too need someone to talk to.
People who have excellent relationships with their families and friends are ultimately better at creating and maintaining them.
This means, firstly, that, having met a partner, they are able to transfer the characteristic features of communication with loved ones to new relationships in their romantic relationships. Secondly, with the powerful support of loved ones whom we trust, it is easier to cope with negative situations.
In general, with significant experience in positive relationships with family and loved ones, it is likely that relationships with other people will work out just as well.
Practice mindfulness Yoga, meditation, or any soothing activity that focuses on current sensations and experiences increases the level of happiness. The experience of focusing on current events manifests itself in a relationship with a partner.
Do good deeds
Devoting half a life to volunteer work is certainly a good deed. But even a sandwich presented to a homeless person or a bunch of flowers for an elderly neighbor improves the way we look at ourselves. This is confirmed by a lot of research.
The spontaneous manifestation of kindness increases the mood, enhances self-esteem, demonstrates our connection with the outside world. By sharing your experience with your partner, you will demonstrate the way you approach things in life, how generous and good you are.
In response, they are then more likely to do something good for you. A mutual demonstration of good deeds and feelings will help to see each other in the most favorable light, which can strengthen mutual love and affection.
Smile more often
A smile is contagious, but unlike the flu, it is completely harmless. In response to a smile, the partner’s mood will improve, as well as their positive attitude towards the people that surround them. Happiness is contagious in its nature, and, by giving it to your partner, they will then give it to someone else, and then that person is going to share that happiness with their loved ones, and one small deed, one small piece of happiness ends up doing a lot of good work.
It is very important to break out of technological captivity at least for a day and forget about all the necessary and useful digital gadgets. Give each other a day to get back to basics. Turn off the phones, devote free time to communication, which will be extremely useful for improving your well-being and gaining psychological comfort.